Cunnilingus - Oral sex upon a vulva
What is cunnilingus?
Cunnilingus is the fine art of making love
to a vagina with your mouth and tongue. It
is a delicate skill, requiring patience,
practice, and dedication to get it right, but
any woman you learn to do it right for will
appreciate you all the more for it.
What applies to the penis applies to the
vulva-- every one is different, requiring a
different touch to make its owner happy.
But few tools can equal the tongue for the
amount of pleasure it can deliver to a
happy vagina.
This article assumes that you know what a
vulva looks like and can identify with some
precision the mons veneris, labia majora,
clitoral hood, clitoris, labia minora, urethra,
vagina, and perineum, to name them
(approximately) from top to bottom.
How fast should I go?
This isn't an attack. Don't go after the
clitoris like a fireman attacking a fire. Quite
often at first, the clitoris is far too sensitive
for direct stimulation. Lick around it,
stimulating the hood, teasing her inner
labia, tasting her. Take your time and
listen to her. Some women make noise,
and some do not. It will be a while before
you learn exactly what your lover prefers
as far as oral sex is concerned.
Some women may like additional
stimulation-- a finger or two into the
vagina, or perhaps even the anus. She
may want your hands to reach up and
play with her breasts, or she may want
your fingers to hold her labia apart so that
your tongue can get at her vulva more
directly.
I've heard cunnilingus
doesn't taste good.
If the taste or smell bothers you or is a
concern, ask her to wash first. Most
people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a
clean vagina is a good, if acquired, taste.
As a woman nears her climax, she may
want more direct stimulation. In general,
fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective
at causing climax-- but there shouldn't be
a rush to get there. Take your time and
learn to appreciate what you can do for
her.
What about cunnilingus during
menstruation?
Some people are particularly turned off at
the suggestion of cunnilingus during
menstruation. If it is a concern to you,
then wait. A tampon may well hold the
blood back, as will a diaphragm, but some
men can't stand the taste anyway. If your
partner is healthy, however, there is no
particular danger in menstrual blood, and
some women find that orgasms during
their periods allievate cramps.